Well, dear friend, you
are NEVER really alone – your heavenly Father keeps watch over you, your
guardian angel is always with you, and your entire heavenly family – including
your Blessed Mother Mary & the Saints are always there for you. Jesus Himself is
always there for you in the tabernacle.
In times of
loneliness, perhaps it would help to recite prayers, such as the following
O Lord, let me
not continue in loneliness.
Good Jesus, by
Thy Loneliness in the Garden by the Desolation Thou didst will to come over
Thee, sanctify mine.
Or this prayer to our
Blessed Mother, Our lady of Good Remedy...
O Lady of Good
Remedy, source of unfailing help, grant that we may draw from thy treasury of
graces in our time of need. Touch the hearts of sinners, that they may seek
reconciliation and forgiveness. Bring comfort to the afflicted and the lonely;
help the poor and the hopeless; aid the sick and the suffering. May they be
healed in body and strengthened in spirit to endure their sufferings with
patient resignation and Christian fortitude.
Or this prayer, said
'in trial, in loneliness and desolation of heart'...
O Lord God, who
correctest those whom Thou dost love, teach me in this sore trial, this dark day
of very heavy chastisement, to know Thy love. Lord, I believe that Thou lovest
me; help Thou mine unbelief. Teach me to see Thy love, though Thou seemest to
turn Thy Face from me. Increase Thy love towards me, O God, now that Thou hast
smitten me... Have pity upon me, speak consolation to my soul. Give me of Thy
comfort, for what can I do, whither can I turn, O Lord? Thou only, Who hast
afflicted, can comfort me; I have none besides Thee. I come to Thee in my
loneliness, my desolation of heart, my anguish. Hold Thou me up; give me of Thy
love; I kneel at Thy feet, I cast myself down before Thee; weeping do I beseech
Thee to receive my prayer for Jesus' sake. Amen.
Also, remember that patient
suffering can bring many benefits (for example, try
here for 'Suffering Has Meaning'). You might offer up the feelings
of loneliness and gain merit for this suffering.
You might also want to
have particular recourse to the marvelous St. Rita of Cascia as she is the
patron saint against loneliness. A novena to her may be found
here (also, a user-submitted novena to St. Rita may be found
A visit to Jesus alone
in the tabernacle might also bring great blessings. (How could it not?) And also
consider devotion to His
In addition, depending on
your situation, you might want to consider volunteering. I think that when we
focus on the needs of others, our own problems can seem more distant. For
example, I know someone who visited the elderly in a nursing home. Some of the
people there may have been pretty lonely, but by spending some time with them,
all parties felt better. Even if you can't volunteer, you can always pray for
others who are lonely. Helping others with their problems tends to be a medicine
for our own problems, IMHO.
Likewise if the loss
of loved ones is contributing to your loneliness, you might especially consider
saying special prayers and performing good works on behalf of your beloved
deceased. Doing so may assist both them and you. This is a wonderful work of
If applicable, you
might reach out family, friends, neighbors, fellow parishioners, etc. for
support during times of loneliness. Should circumstances be favorable, perhaps a beloved
pet might also be a great blessing?
Also, you could look
to see if there are worthy activities or groups at your parish. If not, perhaps
you could see about starting one yourself, if you are so inclined.
Finally, you can "keep
yourself busy" with good spiritual reading and frequent prayer. Note that we
have many prayers on our site (try
here) and numerous quotes from popes & saints (try
here), plus you can also request prayers for yourself in our Prayer Requests
And of course if you
need particular assistance, consider speaking with a good priest and/or
accessing other necessary services (e.g. counseling).
During this difficult
time, always remember that you are never really alone, that you are very loved,
and you have great value.
God bless you.
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"Cast all your worries
upon Him because He cares for you." (1 Pt. 5:7)
"With the confidence
of a son, rest in the care and love that divine Providence has for you in all
your needs. Look upon Providence as a child does its mother who loves him
tenderly. You can be sure that God loves you incomparably more." (St. Jane
Frances de Chantal)
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