I am sorry to hear
that your are feeling lonely. Regarding finding a "new companion", I assume you
were not validly married to begin with, and that you have an annulment?
[Note: If you have questions about annulments, you might find the article
If not, finding a "new
companion" would not be permissible if you were validly married (assuming your
spouse was still alive). Once a person is validly married, they stay married as
long as both of the spouses are alive (regardless of what some civil "divorce"
paper may say). To take up with someone else would be adultery – and certainly
no saint would assist in that regard (or they wouldn't be a saint!). The
himself said such a situation is unlawful...
divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and the one who marries
a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery." (Our Lord Jesus Christ, Lk.
16:18) [also see Mt. 5:31-32 & Mk. 10:2-12]
Certainly there could
be no adultery if divorce truly ended a marriage. Actually, it is impossible
to dissolve a valid marriage while both spouses are living (regardless of what
the state chooses to believe). As expressed in Church law...
"Can. 1118 A
ratified and consummated valid marriage can be dissolved by no human power and
for no cause, outside of death." (1917 Code of Canon Law)
"Can. 1141 A
marriage that is ratum et consummatum can be dissolved by no human power and by
no cause, except death." (1983 Code of Canon Law)
You may also find the
following helpful... (click links to view)
Marriage Reflections (quotes from popes, saints)
I have included the
above information because many people today are confused. They see divorce all
around them & seem unaware of Christ's teaching regarding holy matrimony and its
indissolubility. Our secular culture reinforces the problem – but this does not
change the fact that divorce/"remarriage" is unlawful according to God. It is
also dangerous to one's own eternal well-being (see 1 Cor. 6:9-10). You may be
well aware of the above, but since I am not sure, I felt compelled to include
As for finding a
patron saint, please visit
here and select the category "Persons / Families". You can find a number of
saints for difficult marriages, married women, unhappily married women, single
women, etc. Since I don't know your situation (e.g. if you were validly married
or not), it would be difficult for me to suggest a particular saint. This page,
however, is very easy to use and should provide you with a number of relevant
patrons. As I indicated above, however, a patron saint would not assist you in
finding a "new companion" if you were validly married (assuming your husband is
still alive) because that would be assisting in adultery. However, a saint could
certainly assist you in other ways (e.g. living chastely, reconciling, handling
Lastly, you may want
to seek further guidance from a good priest regarding the particulars of your
situation. They have "heard everything" and may have wise counsel that would
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