To answer your
question, I am not aware of any direct "official" position from the Church which
treats of these specific videos. However, I would consider the following...
* If the videos would be an occasion of sin, this would NOT
* If the videos present an incorrect position regarding the
nature of the act, this would not be acceptable [of course the primary purpose
of the marital act is to beget children with one's lawfully married wife
(even at an advanced age, if it is God's will) – any
use of the marital embrace outside of marriage is a grave sin]. It seems
unlikely that videos produced by non-Catholics would present this matter
properly. Notably your question referred to "couples" rather than "husband and
* There is no reason for intimate matters to be graphically
displayed or immodestly discussed. Appropriate, delicately phrased written
instruction should suffice.
* What other alternatives are available, most preferably
from a highly trustworthy Catholic source?
* If there is a medical problem, wouldn't it be more
properly discussed privately with a good doctor?
* Saints have taught that for preserving of chastity
"flight is better than direct struggle". If the video is graphic, please keep
this in mind...
"[I]t should be
noted, as indeed the Fathers and Doctors of the Church teach, that we can more
easily struggle against and repress the wiles of evil and the enticements of the
passions if we do not struggle directly against them, but rather flee from them
as best we may. For the preserving of chastity, according to the teaching of
Jerome, flight is more effective than open warfare: 'Therefore I flee, lest I be
overcome.' Flight must be understood in this sense, that not only do we
diligently avoid occasion of sin, but especially that in struggles of this kind
we lift our minds and hearts to God" (Pope Pius XII, "Sacra Virginitas", 1954
* Consider the sixth (and ninth) commandments...
Commandment forbids all unchaste freedom with another's wife or husband; also
all immodesty with ourselves or others in looks, dress, words, and actions."
"But I say to
you, everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with
her in his heart." (Our Lord Jesus Christ, Mt. 5:28)
If the videos
might have unchaste images, might lead to unchaste thoughts, looks, etc. this
would present a great danger.
* If your wife would also see the videos, you should
consider whether this would be suitable viewing for her (if they are
graphic/unchaste, it most certainly would not be suitable).
* I would also keep the following in mind concerning
immorality and unchastity...
"Be sure of this,
that no immoral or impure or greedy person, that is, an idolater, has any
inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God." (St. Paul, Eph. 5:5)
"But as for
cowards, the unfaithful, the depraved, murderers, the unchaste, sorcerers,
idol-worshipers, and deceivers of every sort, their lot is in the burning pool
of fire and sulfur, which is the second death." (Rv. 21:8)
"Nor is it enough
to fly from sin; every Christian ought to shine with the splendor of virtue so
as to be pleasing to so great and so beneficent a guest; and first of all with
chastity and holiness, for chaste and holy things befit the temple. Hence the
words of the Apostle: 'Know you not that you are the temple of God, and that the
Spirit of God dwelleth in you? But if any man violate the temple of God, him
shall God destroy. For the temple of God is holy, which you are' (1 Cor. iii.,
16-17): a terrible, indeed, but a just warning." (Pope Leo XIII, "Divinum Illud
Munus", 1897 A.D.)
If you have any
doubts, you might ask yourself what the Blessed Virgin Mary might think about
your watching those videos.
you have further questions, it might be awkward, but you could privately ask a
good priest for guidance (even a good priest at another Catholic parish). As
priests have "heard everything", it hopefully wouldn't be 'too embarrassing'.
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