site does not provide this type of one-on-one conversation. Have you thought
of speaking with a good priest? Would your husband also be willing to speak
with the priest? It seems to me that it would be wisest to speak with a good
priest rather than strangers about these types of personal matters. You might
also consider any worthy Catholic marriage counseling services that may be
available, if applicable. I would
also encourage you to persevering prayer. God always has time to hear your
prayers and always cares about you and wants your good. Although the situation
may be difficult, you are never alone or forgotten about by God. I recall to
mind how some saintly wives handled issues with their husbands and how their
persevering prayers were eventually answered. Along with offering up your
sufferings, you might want to invoke patron saints like St. Monica, St. Rita, etc. You can find more
Perhaps you might
also want to try...
* Managing your time together differently or more
creatively (e.g. could he find some time if you visited him at work, assuming
this is appropriate?)
* Spending some time attempting to see things from his
perspective (e.g. is he working hard to provide for you?, what is he concerned
about at work?, might something be troubling him?, what might happen at his
place of business if he wasn't there so much?, is the economy a significant
threat?, do circumstances make it so he can't delegate work?, etc.)
* Asking him to commit to be home for a regular
"appointment" that he (hopefully) wouldn't want to miss (e.g. special dinner,
wholesome entertainment, etc.). If possible, let him choose the day/time
* Making a special effort to be supportive, loving,
Also, I would ignore
feelings of being "unworthy" to ask the Lord for help. You are God's daughter.
He chose to create you instead of an infinite number of other people that He
could have created. He ALWAYS loves you and has time for you. He wants you to
go to Him. Remember that Scripture says to "Cast all your worries upon him
because he cares for you." (1 Pt. 5:7) We are exhorted over and over again in
Scripture to pray. Certainly, God wants to help you through this difficulty.
Don't let fear of being "unworthy" stop you from seeking His help. Thankfully,
being "worthy" isn't a criteria for speaking with our loving Father. If so,
who could speak with Him? We are all sinners.
Don't forget also
that you have many friends in heaven – the saints. You can find patrons at the
link above. There are also numerous quotes from saints on our site (e.g. try
here). Perhaps you may find some their 'pearls of wisdom' helpful.
I am sorry you are
facing a difficult time right now. I hope things will get better for you very soon.
May God bless you
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