IMPORTANT NOTICE: Due to medical reasons, please expect sporadic delays in all correspondence & services (including processing of posts) over the next few months. We apologize for any inconvenience and thank you for any prayers.


Please Bookmark This Site, Link To Us & Tell Your Friends!

My Catholic Source.com Christ the King of All Nations My Catholic Source.com My Catholic Source.com

My Catholic Source.com Home

Help

Join E-Mail List

Support This Site

Bookmark Site

Tell a Friend

Link to Us

FAQs

Feedback

By Using This Site, You Agree To All Terms

Search

 

User-Submitted Article

User Submitted Articles | User Posts | Comment On This Article

User-Submitted Article:

Don't Be Afraid To Spank Your Children+

Keyboard

Important Notice: We make no guarantee regarding any item herein. We are not liable for any occurrence which may result from using this site. By using this site you agree to all terms. For terms info., click here.


This is a user-submitted article. We make no guarantees regarding any item herein. Note that views of author do not necessarily reflect our views.+


Don't Be Afraid To Spank Your Children+

By "Spanked as a Child and Somehow Lived to Tell About It"

Summary: Failing to spank your children does them a great disservice. Scripture clearly supports corporal punishment for bad behavior. It can be a valuable learning tool for your child. Don't be afraid.

Keywords: Spanking, Discipline, Punishment, Children, Parenting

Mentally count how many times this has happened to you: You're in a restaurant having some lunch. You're with your spouse or a friend trying to relax, have a meal and enjoy some long overdue pleasant conversation. Maybe you're discussing business or just reading the daily paper. But in the background, or at the table next to you, is an unruly, misbehaved, unsupervised child causing havoc and unrest for the entire room. It's a challenge to talk or listen to your company or absorb the plot of that book you have been trying to steal a little time to read. Stop! Don't even think about saying something to the kid's parent or the sharp fangs (or sharp words) of mama bear will tear at you like a weed-whacker in damp grass. You can stop counting now. May I get you an aspirin?

Don't get me wrong – I think that children, well behaved children, are adorable. The more polite, the more adorable. To look at the smile on the face of a child is heartwarming.

But parents let public places be turned into the local playground. The supermarket, shopping mall, restaurant, motor vehicle department, library (yes, library), the doctors office, are not off limits to the running, screaming, tantrum-throwing and disheveling that could drive even the most patient persons to their wits end. At this point, it should be noted it always seems that the tot causing the ruckus in the doctor's waiting room is the "patient". "But, I thought they were sick?", I say to myself.

So, what is the cause of this? The child? Well, no, unless they are of an age of reason and should know better. The parents? Most certainly!

In this age, when many people do their thinking with their feelings, it is not surprising that their children run roughshod over them. Most are so tired with the business of the day that they are too tired to deal with discipline or even the basic corrections that will so greatly guide their children to becoming considerate citizens in polite society. Taking a job and dumping off the kids instead of self-raising them affects society in the form of bad behavior. Who wants to be the bad guy after being gone all day, letting someone else teach (or neglect to teach) their child manners? We all feel the brunt of parents who are too apathetic or just plain lazy to use one effective tool that could get to the bottom (no pun intended) of the problem: spanking.

I was spanked as a child. Not a lot, mind you, but enough that I knew I didn't want to be again. I knew my parents loved me. They took the time to tell me that it was for my own good, and why. After growing up a little, I realized what they explained was true. And, I understood it. Society is so quick to point out how much 'smarter' children are now. So why not expect civil behavior? Why can't they be smart enough to learn the lessons that good ol' dad taught me: Act right around others, behave, be polite, respect those around you? Oh, and by the way, if you're not, your gonna get it, spanked that is… I have NEVER come across anyone who told me that they were damaged or emotionally affected by their parents spanking them. They quite unanimously agree that it was good for them.

But parents are so worried that spanking will harm their children…oh dear! When I grew up in the 70's, parents weren't so worried about the 'delicate physical & emotional state' of their children. My parents loved me dearly, but quite frankly, most days my mom could send me out the back door at eight in the morning and I could play with my friends until it was time for dinner, all without a worry for myself or my parents. When I did something wrong, something that deserved it, I got a swat on the tush. They didn't fret because they knew they were forming me into a better mannered individual that one day would act decently on my own because it was the right thing to do. They were building my character with snapshot corrections that I would remember – or not forget. As a child, that spank is a real shocker - one that "snaps" you to attention – the attention required so that mom or dad can teach you an important life lesson.

I managed to make it through the scum of the 60's, 70's and 80's without getting into trouble. And, here I am today in my mid-40's with no scars or emotional trauma that would turn the pupils of the most sincere psychologist into dollar signs. Amazingly, my rear end is still intact and I too shall pass on what I have learned through the communicative skill of a well-timed and well-placed swat.

So why the reluctance to use spanking as means of teaching? Some may feel that it is too harsh. Many of my fellow Catholics seem to agree. I know because on Sunday I can hear their children standing on the pews or running around the back of the church. I recall a mass that I attended where one tyke managed to be so distracting that the priest actually had to stop his sermon and ask that the parent come get their child! Maybe a few parents could use a spank once in a while. Clearly, the church or any other publicly shared place should not become a playground for the unattended.

Parents unwilling to discipline and spank do their children a great disservice. How many times have you observed unruly toddler behavior and thought, "I wonder who's in control here?" or, "Which one is the parent?" Children learn there are no consequences for their actions. Spanking increases attention span and builds a sense of who is rightly in command. After a spanking, children learn that if they act a certain way, unpleasantness will follow. This is a great deterrent to future bad attitudes & bad behaviors. More importantly, how can a child come to believe that his Heavenly Father will give him an eternity of corporal punishment for failing obey His laws? Or similarly, how will he comprehend that a just judgment of eternal damnation will come from Christ - one that he himself has earned through a single unrepented mortal sin - if his own parents cannot bring themselves to merely swat his bottom?

I know so many who are willing to share their scriptural prowess to make a point they feel is important. So I will conclude this article with irrefutable support for what many may be thinking who have managed to read this far: "It's harsh to spank children, even when they misbehave. Surely, a less 'violent' method is more loving and appropriate". My support is scripture. Scripture can be harsh, but for our own good. In many places, scripture advises and even commands, that we "spare not the rod". To argue otherwise is to argue against scripture…

Prov. 13:24: He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him takes care to chastise him.

Prov. 23:13-14: Withhold not chastisement from a boy; if you beat him with the rod, he will not die. Beat him with the rod, and you will save him from the nether world.

Prov. 29:15: The rod of correction gives wisdom, but a boy left to his whims disgraces his mother.

Sirach 30:8-13: A colt untamed turns out stubborn; a son left to himself grows up unruly. Pamper your child and he will be a terror for you, indulge him and he will bring you grief. Share not in his frivolity lest you share in his sorrow, when finally your teeth are clenched in remorse. Give him not his own way in his youth, and close not your eyes to his follies. Bend him to the yoke when he is young, thrash his sides while he is still small, Lest he become stubborn, disobey you, and leave you disconsolate. Discipline your son, make heavy his yoke, lest his folly humiliate you.

Signature ImageSignature: "Spanked as a Child and Somehow Lived to Tell About It"

[Note: The reader is reminded that discipline of children should obviously be done within reason. One must not abuse children.]

+ Note: Unfortunately, in some locations, it may be 'illegal' to spank children. Consult a suitable attorney for further information.


Also Try...

Click Link Below To View:

Submit a Comment About this Article ('add post')

Read Comments Regarding this Article (if applicable)

Read Other User-Submitted Articles

Submit Your Own Article

More About User-Submitted Articles

Read User-Submitted Posts

Submit Your Own Post

For Information Related To This Topic Try:

Catholic Life Section

More Information / Resources:

Click Here For Help => 10,000+ Topics!

Click Here For Thousands of Quotations From Popes, Saints, Scripture, Etc. Categorized By Section

Looking For a Great Catholic Home Page? Try the MCS Daily Digest™ (click here)

Didn't find what you were looking for? Try Here


We make no guarantees regarding any item herein. By using this site you indicate agreement to all terms. For terms information, see "Important Notice" above and click here.

Help | Terms of UseOther FAQs

 

Also See...

* Marriage (Topic Page)

* Eternal Damnation / Hell (Topic Page)

 

MCS Directory

(click here)

"Your Source For All Things Catholic!"

Click for Listings from 'Advertising' to 'Wholesalers'

List Your Catholic Product or Catholic Service FREE! Other listings just $24.95/yr.!+

List Your Business+

Sales & Specials

(click here)

'Click to Save on Catholic & Non-Catholic Products and Services'

Place Your Ad+

Catholic Community Center 

Completely Free!

Announcements

Answered Prayers

Catholic Basics

Catholic Book Review & Exchange

Catholic Events

Catholic Fun & Activities

Catholic Life

Catholic Links

Catholic News Links / Current Issues

Catholic Seniors

Church Talk

Coming Home

Feed Your Faith

Give & Take

Good News

Increase Holiness

Latin Mass & Catholic Tradition

Mary Our Mother

Non-Catholics

Notable Catholic Laity

Our Father's Love

Personal Stories of Inspiration

Prayer Requests

Prayers & Devotions

Priests & Vocations

Rosary

Sacraments

Saints

Scripture/Parables

Scripture Exchange

St. Francis Page for Pets

Vatican View

Volunteers' Corner

Why I Love Being Catholic

Support Your Community Center

'Pin it'

'Tweet This Site'

Notice: Clicking links above

leaves this site

More Information

Problem With Link?

Click to Support Quality Catholic Content - FREE!

Click for Vatican Gifts Starting Under $5.00

Our Pledge To Donors

What Your Donation Might Do

About Us

Classifieds

(click here)

Place Your Ad Today For Just $9.95!+

Announcements

Catholic Buddies

Catholic Organizations / Groups

Catholic Products

Catholic Services

Employment / Occupational

For Sale

Professional Services / Trades

Miscellaneous

Other Products

Other Services

Wanted

More...

 

 

   

 

 

 

Home

MCS Daily Digest

Quick Guide to This Site

What's New

Reception Desk

Notices

Coming Soon

Featured Sections

URL Shortcuts

Calendar

Goals / Purpose

This site is really free?

How can I add a "post" here?

Mission Statement

Privacy Statement

Imprimatur Information

Terms of Use

by using this site, you agree to all terms

MCS Directory

Community Center

Commercial Areas

Non-Catholics

About Us

FAQs

Tell a Friend

Invite a Business

Link to Us

My Catholic Source.com Blog & RSS Feed Info.

Third Party Programs

Awards

Feedback

Contact Us

This site powered by bfsnet.com

 Powered by bfsnet.com

Try Here For Great Catholic Apps!

Catholic Bible References (Click For More Information)

Catholic Bible References - Available on the App Store (click to download)

Catholic Bible References for Android - Available on Google Play (click to download)

Catholic Bible References for Android - Available at Amazon Appstore for Android (click to download)

iStations / Stations of the Cross (Click For More Information)

iStations - Available on the App Store (click to download)

iStations for Android - Available on Google Play (click to download)

iStations for Android - Available at Amazon Appstore for Android (click to download)

Saints4U (Click For More Information)

Saints4U - Available on the App Store (click to download)

Saints4U for Android - Available on Google Play (click to download)

Saints4U for Android - Available at Amazon Appstore for Android (click to download)

And Other Great Apps...

Speedy Dial! (Click For More Information)

Speedy Dial! - Available on the App Store (click to download)

Speedy Dial! for Android - Available on Google Play (click to download)

Speedy Dial! for Android - Available at Amazon Appstore for Android (click to download)

Just Checkin' In (Click For More Information)

Just Checkin' In - Available on the App Store (click to download)

Just Checkin' In for Android - Available on Google Play (click to download)

Just Checkin' In for Android - Available at Amazon Appstore for Android (click to download)

 

  


Click to shop at Amazon.com in support of MyCatholicSource.com

Click to shop at Amazon.com in support of MyCatholicSource.com [Click this image for Amazon Search - 'Catholic statues'] Click to shop at Amazon.com in support of MyCatholicSource.com [Click this image for Amazon Search - 'Catholic jewelry medals'] Click to shop at Amazon.com in support of MyCatholicSource.com [Click this image for Amazon Search - 'Crucifix'] Click to shop at Amazon.com in support of MyCatholicSource.com [Click this image for Amazon Search - 'Rosary beads'] Click to shop at Amazon.com in support of MyCatholicSource.com [Click this image for Amazon Search - 'Catholic artwork'] Click to shop at Amazon.com in support of MyCatholicSource.com

Notice: Clicking image/links above leaves this site. We do not recommend any website/product/service/seller/etc.

Reminder: Available items may differ from those pictured above.

More Information | Problem With Link?


iStations / Stations of the Cross (Click For More Information)       Catholic Bible References (Click For More Information)       Saints4U (Click For More Information)       Speedy Dial! (Click For More Information)       Just Checkin' In (Click For More Information)

Try Here For Great Catholic Apps!

Click For Android Versions


Please bookmark this site and visit often! 

| Home | Help | Quick Guide | Reception Desk | About Us | Terms of Use | Our MissionWhat's New |

| FAQs | Notices | MCS Calendar | MCS Daily Digest | Topic Pages | Featured Sections | Site Update |

| Check System Date/Time | URL Shortcuts | Question? | Code of Conduct | Privacy Statement |

| Section Info. | Your Posts | Timetables | Where to Post | Where to Find Posts | Submission Tips |

| Contribution Maximums | Support This Site | Tell a Friend | Invite a Business | Link to Us |

| Bookmark This Site | Guest BookDid You Know? | Site Benefits | Awards | Commercial Sections |

| MyCatholicSource.com Blog & RSS Feed Info. | Third Party Programs | Acknowledgements |

 | Search Site | Join Mailing List | Technical Assistance | Report Technical Problem |

| Post/User Problems | Contact Us | Feedback | Copyright Notice / Permissions |

| Make MyCatholicSource.com Your Default Home Page |

Thank you for being part of over 4,000,000 visitors to MyCatholicSource.com since 2009!  *

Click Here To Help Keep Us Online


Experiencing technical problems with this site? Please click "Report Technical Problem" link above

* Number of visits is based on raw, unfiltered access logs

+All ads subject to our terms. Price indicated may be base price for non-refundable processing fee, excluding tax, optional ad enhancements, etc. "Place your ad" / "list your business" / "list your Catholic product or service free" / etc. is not a guarantee that any ad will appear on this site. Payment of processing fee does not assure appearance of ad on site. References to target cycles (e.g. "just $##.##/yr.") are not guarantees [ads that appear on the site may appear for a longer or shorter time than the indicated target cycles (e.g. from 0 days to multiples of a target cycle)] and are subject to change at any time without notice (either retroactively or on a go-forward basis, either individually / selectively / grouped / or in total).

 

Reminders: You may not copy / distribute (including via e-mail, website, etc.) / sell / etc. information contained on this site (or any images) or use them for any commercial purpose whatsoever. All applicable content is owned by us and is protected by copyright laws. Any unauthorized reproduction / distribution / use of such content is prohibited by law and may result in severe civil and criminal penalties. Note that we reserve the right to prosecute violators to the maximum extent possible. Also note that views of others do not necessarily reflect our views. We make no guarantees regarding any item herein and we not responsible/liable for any consequences which may occur as a - direct or indirect - result of use of this site. By using this site (or associated materials), you agree to hold us harmless for all damages in connection with use of this site (or other materials), regardless of their nature. Remember that we are not a party to others' transactions / activities (including posting, browsing of posts/ads, transfers, contacts / correspondence, etc.) even if information regarding the transactions / activities appears on this site or other materials of ours, and that we do not mediate disputes. You are solely responsible for all consequences of your transactions / activities. Use of this site is at your own risk, with no liability whatsoever to us. By using this site, you agree to all terms. For more terms information, click here.

 

Copyright © 2001-2016, B.F.S. All rights reserved.

MyCatholicSource.com & BFSApps are divisions of B.F.S. | DR10.28.12 11:23:33 -0600LUP